Wisdom from grandma
As our culture and world progressively change at a rapid rate I’d like to offer this article with tidbits of wisdom from grandma that is fading all too quickly.
Each generation has something they are remembered for. Some things have been passed down and kept for centuries. However, with our ever-changing fast-paced world we live in, it’s hard to keep up. There are certain things that were kept for hundreds of years and now are rarely seen.
For us millennials, we have a choice to hold on to and pass on wisdom from grandma to the daughters these sweet ways of life.
1. Bread baking
“Give us this day, our daily bread…” As I have uttered this prayer many times before, it took an entire new meaning once I stopped buying bread, and started baking my own sourdough.
Bread baking used to be a daily act of service women offered for centuries to their families. The time, preparation, and the care needed to keep a starter active requires diligence. The required habit of waking early, or staying up late to ensure the bread has time to rise for the next meal.
For many years most people lived off of daily bread and broth. I think oftentimes we forget to reflect on the centuries before us.
There’s such a sweetness of time slowing down as one kneads dough. It’s a great time for reflection and meditating on scripture. It also contradicts the lifestyle that we live in today. The long list of consuming, planning, working, playing, going, doing just one more thing, consume, and the cycle repeats.
When I started baking bread, it was to be financially prudent. I’m frugal. My grandma taught me well. Living in Hawaii, certain items are high ticket items like bread, especially organic non-GMO bread, which is non-negotiable with my family.
I praise the Lord what this simple thing has done for our family’s budget. Not to mention, have you ever had fresh baked bread out of the oven? It is seriously so delicious.
Bring bread to neighbors
Second, I remember my grandma telling me stories about bringing bread to the new neighbor, or a family in need. I have a hard enough time keeping up baking enough bread for my men, and the amount of bread they eat, let alone sharing. It is a goal of mine to be able to offer this more often than I do. This leads us to the next thing.
2. Genuine Kindness
let us love one another
My one grandmother is Italian and the other one was Irish/English. These two were pretty opposite culturally in how they were brought up and raised. In homeschooling, we’ve been reading many novels and books from the 1800s and early 1900s this past year. It has made me realize that genuine kindness and consideration is slowly and painfully dying out.
I realize we all have a lot to do. However, as our reality becomes more entwined with screen life, it makes our interactions with each other less organic.
Both of my grandmas and I’m sure you’ve seen those little old ladies who could strike up a conversation with anyone. They go to the post office, and they know the clerks’ entire life asking how so and so is.
They say hello to every person they pass with a big smile. Anyone is always welcome to stop by, and they are hopping up to get a pot of tea on, and open up the cookie jar.
How is it that grandma always has cookies in the jar? I would have to continually be baking cookies for them to last in my house. Serious. I make two triple batches and it lasts maybe 1-2 days.
There is a genuine kindness of treating others how you would be treated.
This can be brought to so many levels. I was talking with an old friend, and she told me of her Japanese grandmother who helped raise all 12 grandkids. She never rose her voice. She told me how she always aspired to be as kind as her grandmother.
Wisdom from Grandma: Be Kind
Kindness can be manifested in so many ways. With media brainwashing to complain, grumble, and have an entitlement it’s no wonder kindness is being tossed to the side.
“Charity suffereth long, and is kind; (love)charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up.” 1 Corinthians 13:4 KJV
Here are simple ways to show kindness to those around you and out to the world
- Smile and greet everyone
- Ask a stranger how they are doing, or a question about their day, and then listen.
- Call a friend you haven’t talked to in a while and see how they are doing
- Offer a Hand to Someone you know who is struggling
- Pick a flower and give it to someone
- Bake your husband a cake just because
- Introduce yourself to the new person at whatever class or group you may go to on a regular basis
- Wave at your neighbor
There are so many possibilities. Try keeping a kindness journal until the habit is formed. I realize there are many women out there who are extremely kind. I say thank you woman for choosing kindness even when it is not always easy to do. Continue to set the bar high for those of us who are still growing in His grace in this area.
This leads us to our final point. Which is an extension of kindness.
3. Thank You cards
Yes, I realize a stamp is outrageously priced now, but who knows if we all start mailing more letters, invitations, and cards, the supply may drive the price down. Doubtful I know. But even mail aside, there are people you see in your daily life where you can hand them a card.
I know there are still many women who hand out thank you cards. Was your mother a card sender? If she was a card person, chances are she raised you with the habit. And if she wasn’t chances are you don’t have the habit either.
This is a personal goal of mine and has been for the past 2 years. It’s getting better, but still my cards seem to always be late, or out of context. It just is so simple to send a thank you text. I am really hoping with the Lord’s help and diligence I will get this habit down soon.
My grandmothers always sent birthday cards. And they were always on time! I watched them write out thank you cards, even for the simplest of things, and hand them to people on a regular basis. I noticed the older women at my church take the care to give birthday cards and thank you notes. They don’t have to be letters, just simply the gesture speaks for itself.
Oftentimes garage sales, or thrift stores have boxes of thank you notes for less than $1. I challenge you, if you’re like me, and this isn’t a discipline you have in life send out a thank you note to everyone you can think of that has given you something in the last 6 months. Watch how delighted they feel and yourself. It reminds me of the same feeling I get when I sit on the couch and my house is clean and orderly. It just feels good and right.
To be honest, I’m way better at care packages with long letters than simple notes. And living far from many people I do have select friends whom I send packages at times to. Most times I get the thank you text, but the only thank you card I have ever received has been from that of the older generation. Let’s not let this sweet thing die out as they pass on, but rather let’s send out cards of thanks and kindness.
In conclusion, I hope this wisdom from grandma has encouraged you, and pushes you to perhaps take up baking bread, even if it is quick rise with yeast once a month. Maybe learning a new fact about your neighbor or grocery clerk. Or perhaps, writing out a thank you card. Even if you want to keep it millennial status and create a beautiful image in Photoshop.
These small treasures that were once as ordinary as a pair of shoes, will transform you from the inside out. Feel free to comment below with any wisdom from grandma who has helped shape your life.